Today, all I have to say is this: Stop comparing yourself to others.
There is someone who will ALWAYS have it better than you. There will always be someone who has what you want. And you can keep harping on the fact that it’s not fair. That you deserve it more. You can keep repeating whatever words you use to console yourself over, and over, and over.
But it won’t change the fact that they have it and you don’t. Whatever it is. Whether it’s the job you want, the promotion you deserved. Maybe it’s the fact that that person is happily engaged and you’re stuck in a relationship you’re not sure is going anywhere.
So stop harping on why they have it and you don’t. You will always be the biggest obstacle you need to overcome.
And never, ever make the other person feel bad about what they have. Because they likely know how lucky they are. There’s enough sadness in this world without everyone bringing each other down.
The only thing that will do is ruin a friendship. I once told a friend that she wasn’t allowed to get engaged before I did. But not just that. I said that I thought becoming engaged after only a year was crazy – after she’d told me that they’d likely get engaged after being together a year. In all honesty, I don’t think it’s crazy. I just had been in a relationship for more than 3 years and didn’t think it would be right for someone else to be engaged so quickly when I wasn’t. Luckily, my friend’s a lot nicer than I am.
Stop focusing on what others have.
Start focusing on you.